Wedding Jitters (Odd Musings)
Well, I've already had two weird dreams about the wedding. The other night, I dreamt about my hair, of all things. My mom has made appointments for me and the 'maids and herself for the morning of the wedding. As the bride, I get a bonus appointment to "practice." On the appointment sheet, the word fragment "Brds" is next to my mom's name. I'm assuming that means "braids." (wth?) My appointment is designated as "updo," although I plan on wearing my hair down. I dreamt that I went to this practice appointment, alone, carrying my veil. I sat down in the chair, handed my veil to the hairdresser, then proceeded not to look at what she was doing at all! Neither did I look at what she did before I left.
After I left, I felt the veil start to fall off my head. Since it is attached to a comb, I just wrestled around with it however I could to make it stay put. It then occured to me to look at what I looked like... I discovered that I had an updo made of braids. Braids everywhere. None of my long, luxurious, VS-Conditioned-Bought-From-Ebay hair was down at all!
Not exactly a nightmare, but it was odd. The dream I had last night was a little more stressful. I dreamt that it was the day of the wedding, and I had to go buy a veil (what IS it with the stupid veil?). And my bridesmaid had to have one, too. We went to this store, and tried to pick out veils, but there wasn't a very good selection. And I kept getting confused over the attendents having to wear one, too. I finally found and bought one, only to leave it there by accident. When I went back to get it, the person I was with reminded me that it was almost time to go get married. It was at that point that I remembered I hadn't printed up programs or directions/map to the reception to hand out! Here in the waking world, that doesn't seem so earth-shattering. In the dream, however, it was the end of the world!
I am getting nervous now. Not about the marriage... this has been a long time coming! But the wedding itself it starting to, well, make me nervous. We still haven't planned the ceremony at all. We want to have personal vows, but neither of us are really cut out to spill our guts in front of everyone. I'm worried that it will be miserable and rainy and that our kinda-too-expensive photographer will not have a nice day to work his magic with. I'm worried that all the leaves will have already turned a dull brown and will litter the ground instead of shine bright oranges and yellows on the trees. Maybe everyone was right. Maybe I should have shot for getting married on Saturday the 18th. I would have had the leaves, it would have been on a "more appropriate" day of the week.
Maybe I should have tried for more elegant decorations. A DJ. Maybe people "go traditional" because it's a little less risky. I'm stressed about the reception being boring. That's been my big stressor all along. I have no shoes, no jewelry. I have to talk to the Cake Lady about the cake. I have to figure out champagne. I have to make a CD. I've lost a friend. I'm not like tearing my hair out over here, I'm just quietly imploding :-)
I still don't get what all this has to do with my dreamworld obsession with this veil, though.
Posted by
geena
on Monday, October 13, 2003 at 11:11 AM
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Comments
Posted by C on October 13, 2003 08:47 PM
Don't implode! Have you ever seen what a veil looks like on an imploded birde? Braids, updo, or perfectly conditioned hair, it's not a pretty picture.
Take a deep breath. Decide which of these things is really worth worrying about, and take care of it.
Yes, people go with traditional receptions because it's not risky, but they also go with traditional because they don't have the imagination to try anything else. DJ, rubber chicken, the Electric Slide, tasteless cake with Crisco icing, white wrapping paper on the presents . . . those are boring and they are not what people go to weddings for.
We'll be there to witness two people we love pledging to love each other the rest of their lives. We'll be there to see our friends and family who also love you two, and who love us even though we're flaky about staying in touch with them. We will be there for the cake, but if it's tasteless, we promise not to tell you.
You will be lovely. Dave will be handsome. The leaves will be there in some form or another. The centerpieces will be gorgeous and sparkly and the kids will have fun trick-or-treating. It will be a lovely day and a fun party. And after it's over, you'll be married!
Posted by C on October 13, 2003 08:49 PM
Remeber to pick a low-eyeball-cholesterol menu ;-)
Posted by hanzogod on October 14, 2003 06:58 AM
Is it too late to RSVP? I'm a dork and forgot to send in the nice little card. I intend to attend as a party of one, if you'll still allow.
As for the wedding jitters, those are common and natural. Take care of details that pop up in your head as the days progress, and know that we're going to be there to see the joyful glow of two of our great friends. The leaves, cake, and all the other details, in whatever form, will make your day unique and memorable for everybody.
Posted by Donna on October 30, 2003 02:02 PM
Hi Gina-Geena! How are those wedding jitters now? Hopefully, you are now calm and collected because you've been there a bit and able to "get a handle" on things. I know the wedding will be wonderful, you will be stunning Dave will be happy, and the wedding will be the best celebration anyone could think of AND the best Haloween most people will ever experience. We are sorry we could not be there with you and celebrate this grand occassion. We wish you every happiness!
Love, Sandy and Donna
Posted by Donna on October 30, 2003 02:07 PM
OH! and if it makes you feel any better, the roof at our reception hall wall in great disrepair (unbenownest to us)--- besides the fact that is was an outdoor wedding and it RAINED that day before and after the ceremony- needless to say, our wedding pictures have some wonderful candids of our guests sitting in the dining room with their umbrellas open t protect themselves and thier food from the many leaks pouring through the roof! Fortunately they all thought it was great fun ... and so did we! Seemed to capture the serendipity of our personalities! Provides us with (and them) with GREAT memories!
xoxo Donna
Posted by Mom on November 1, 2003 09:06 PM
Everything was great!!! Gina was beautiful my son was handsome. Will be great pictures with the pretty orange and yellow trees in the background. The reception was great not boring a minute and the kids had a ball!!! Will be remembered by all and I think great memories for David and Gina. Lots of applause for Gina and her Mom and all others who helped them especially Aunt Lorrie who was a big hit and Tigger too!! Now I have my 4th daughter in law and everyone lived happy ever after!!
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